About

I’m proud to be a man, and I embrace my masculinity striving to show up as a king, a warrior, a lover, and a magician in the best sense of each, while staying conscious of the shadows they sometimes cast. My comfort level with my masculinity didn’t come out of nowhere; it’s shaped by my innate temperament, my upbringing, the culture I live in, and the formative experiences that made me who I am. Through years of reading and spending time in men’s groups, I’ve seen that a lot of men – especially those raised in the post-feminist era- aren’t at ease with their masculinity. That discomfort can make relationships and life decisions harder than they need to be. A clear line needs to be drawn between gender equality and gender neutrality. True equality isn’t about erasing our differences, but about allowing men to be comfortable in their masculinity in new, healthier ways ways that don’t repeat the old patterns of patriarchy
Women can have equal pay and equal rights, and still fully embrace their femininity. Trying to deny our biological differences doesn’t work; what does work is respecting those differences and seeing how they can enrich a society that values both fairness and cooperation. We can be equal in terms of rights, while still expressing our gender roles in ways that feel authentic to each of us.
The data is clear.  We are losing our boys either to passivity or to toxicity. Young men and boys can be taught how to be a man in the best of masculinity so that they are comfortable in their masculinity and can be active contributors to society.
I currently work as a parenting and life coach at Family Centered Parenting, and in addition to my memoir, I am the author of “Family Centered Parenting: Your Guide to Growing a Great Family.” I hold a doctorate in educational administration and have worked as a teacher, administrator and graduate school instructor. I am a highly evaluated workshop presenter and a former CEO of a care management agency. I am married and the father and stepfather of six children and grandfather of seven.